{"id":6956,"date":"2024-12-26T20:18:53","date_gmt":"2024-12-26T20:18:53","guid":{"rendered":"https:\/\/sciencesandnatures.com\/?p=6956"},"modified":"2024-12-26T20:18:54","modified_gmt":"2024-12-26T20:18:54","slug":"my-ex-wife-asked-to-use-the-money-saved-for-our-late-son-for-her-stepson-my-reaction-left-her-speechless","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/sciencesandnatures.com\/my-ex-wife-asked-to-use-the-money-saved-for-our-late-son-for-her-stepson-my-reaction-left-her-speechless\/","title":{"rendered":"My ex-wife asked to use the money saved for our late son for her stepson\u2014my reaction left her speechless"},"content":{"rendered":"\n<p><em>My son was smart. Smarter than me. I almost requested a paternity test because he was so damn intelligent. My ex and I divorced when he was about 12. She remarried when he was 14. I did when he was 16.He always lived with me, as my ex wanted to focus on bettering her personal life and &ldquo;getting along with her stepson,&rdquo; so she visited him rarely, only sometimes taking him for holidays. It was sad. I had a 529 Plan set up for him. As long as he went for post-secondary education, he could use the money for anything. When he got accepted to Yale, it was the proudest moment of my life. But&hellip; soon after, my son was struck and killed by a drunk driver in November. I was handling the funeral arrangements and everything when my ex came to talk to me about his money.&rdquo;I know you have this fund. So, since you don&rsquo;t need it anymore, I want you to give it to my stepson. Jerry (her current husband) thinks it&rsquo;s fair too.&rdquo;\n\n\n\n<p>Holding on to the photograph of Peter, my late son, I wondered what life would have been like had he still been alive. He was a vibrant young man, full of dreams and aspirations. And then, his life was cut short by a drunk driver.\n\n\n\n</p><p>Peter\u2019s mom and I were divorced. We separated when he was 12. She remarried two years later, and I did when Peter was 16.\n\n\n\n</p><p>Following the divorce, he stayed with me. His mom on the other hand anted to take her time in order to bond with her stepson, Ryan.\n\n\n\n<figure class='\"wp-block-image\"'><img decoding='\"async\"' src="%5C%22https:%5C/%5C/boreddaddy.com%5C/wp-content%5C/uploads%5C/2024%5C/12%5C/pexels-photo-10472993-1024x683.webp?ezimgfmt=rs:363x242%5C/rscb1%5C/ng:webp%5C/ngcb1%5C%22" alt='\"\"' class='\"wp-image-70323\"\/'><figcaption class='\"wp-element-caption\"'><a href="%5C%22https:%5C/%5C/www.pexels.com%5C/photo%5C/man-in-gray-shirt-and-white-long-sleeves-holding-a-photograph-10472993%5C/%5C%22">Pexels\n\n\n\n<p>Peter only spent one single summer with them, but later confide in me that his mom and her new family kept an emotional distance. He never liked to spend another day with them, although he was in contact and saw them every now and then.\n\n\n\n</p><p>Peter was into drawing, especially doing sketches, and his dream was attending Yale. That photograph of him I clutched to was taken a day prior to his acceptance in the prestigious university.\n\n\n\n</p><h3 class='\"wp-block-heading\"'>A my thoughts wandered in some happier times and my long and meaningful conversations with my late son, I heard a knock on the door.\n\n\n\n</h3><p>It was Susan, my ex. She said she needed to talk to me about something important.\n\n\n\n<figure class='\"wp-block-image\"'><img decoding='\"async\"' src="%5C%22https:%5C/%5C/boreddaddy.com%5C/wp-content%5C/uploads%5C/2024%5C/12%5C/pexels-photo-13724494.webp?ezimgfmt=rs:363x545%5C/rscb1%5C/ng:webp%5C/ngcb1%5C%22" alt='\"\"' class='\"wp-image-70325\"\/'><figcaption class='\"wp-element-caption\"'><a href="%5C%22https:%5C/%5C/www.pexels.com%5C/photo%5C/person-holding-a-door-knocker-13724494%5C/%5C%22">Pexels\n\n\n\n<p>She and I hadn\u2019t really talked following our separation, except about Peter, and now that he was gone, I couldn\u2019t possibly think of a common topic that she and I could discuss.\n\n\n\n</p><p>Showing audacity that made me question if grief had clouded my judgment, she said she knew I had a fund for Peter. She was right, I had a 529 Plan set up for him. As long as he went for post-secondary education, he could use the money for anything.\n\n\n\n</p><p>\u201cYou know, now that Peter is gone, we could use that money for my stepson\u2019s education, my husband Jerry also believes that would be the best decision.\u201d\n\n\n\n</p><p>I couldn\u2019t believe what I heard. \u201cUse Peter\u2019s money that I had saved all those years for someone my son barely knew? You have to be insane,\u201d I said.\n\n\n\n<figure class='\"wp-block-image\"'><img decoding='\"async\"' src="%5C%22https:%5C/%5C/boreddaddy.com%5C/wp-content%5C/uploads%5C/2024%5C/12%5C/pexels-photo-6266447.webp?ezimgfmt=rs:363x545%5C/rscb1%5C/ng:webp%5C/ngcb1%5C%22" alt='\"\"' class='\"wp-image-70326\"\/'><figcaption class='\"wp-element-caption\"'><a href="%5C%22https:%5C/%5C/www.pexels.com%5C/photo%5C/a-person-holding-a-sum-of-cash-6266447%5C/%5C%22">Pexels\n\n\n\n<p>\u201cPlease don\u2019t act this way. Ryan is part of the family as well,\u201d she said. \u201cWhat family, Susan, Peter only met your stepson Ryan a handful of times.\u201d\n\n\n\n</p><p>With anger in my voice, I said, \u201cDon\u2019t you remember that summer Peter spent with you and your new family? He once overheard Jerry saying Peter wasn\u2019t his responsibility, and you ask to use his money for someone else?\u201d<img decoding='\"async\"' src="%5C%22https:%5C/%5C/go.ezodn.com%5C/utilcave_com%5C/ezoicbwa.png%5C%22" alt='\"Ezoic\"'>\n\n\n\n</p><p>She tried to convince me it would be what Peter would want, but I knew my late son all too well, and it definitely wasn\u2019t something he would want me to do.\n\n\n\n</p><h3 class='\"wp-block-heading\"'>I told Susan to leave my house.\n\n\n\n<figure class='\"wp-block-image\"'><img decoding='\"async\"' src="%5C%22https:%5C/%5C/boreddaddy.com%5C/wp-content%5C/uploads%5C/2024%5C/12%5C/free-photo-of-night-view-of-st-nicholas-church-in-gent-belgium.jpeg?ezimgfmt=rs:363x645%5C/rscb1%5C/ng:webp%5C/ngcb1%5C%22" alt='\"\"' class='\"wp-image-70327\"\/'><figcaption class='\"wp-element-caption\"'><a href="%5C%22https:%5C/%5C/www.pexels.com%5C/photo%5C/night-view-of-st-nicholas-church-in-gent-belgium-29892248%5C/%5C%22">Pexels\n\n\n\n<p>The following day, I booked a trip to Belgium, the country Peter dreamed of visiting one day. As I walked the streets and visited the museums, including the \u201cbeer monks\u201d he was fascinated with. I had his photograph in my pocket and felt his spirit everywhere I went.\n\n\n\n</p><p>When I returned, I used the rest of the money to start a foundation that would help young artists like Peter.<img decoding='\"async\"' src="%5C%22https:%5C/%5C/go.ezodn.com%5C/utilcave_com%5C/ezoicbwa.png%5C%22" alt='\"Ezoic\"'>\n\n\n\n</p><p>This way, I knew I honored Peter and his legacy.\n\n\n\n</p><p>Please SHARE this article with your family and friends on Facebook.\n\n\n\n</p><p>Love and Peace\n","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":"</p><div class='\"mh-excerpt\"'><p>My son was smart. Smarter than me. I almost requested a paternity test because he was so damn intelligent. My ex and I divorced when <a class='\"mh-excerpt-more\"' href="%5C%22https:%5C/%5C/sciencesandnatures.com%5C/my-ex-wife-asked-to-use-the-money-saved-for-our-late-son-for-her-stepson-my-reaction-left-her-speechless%5C/%5C%22" title='\"My' ex-wife asked to use the money saved for our late son her stepson reaction left speechless>[&hellip;]\n","protected":false},"author":2,"featured_media":0,"comment_status":"open","ping_status":"open","sticky":false,"template":"","format":"standard","meta":{"footnotes":""},"categories":[1],"tags":[],"_links":{"self":[{"href":"https:\/\/sciencesandnatures.com\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts\/6956"}],"collection":[{"href":"https:\/\/sciencesandnatures.com\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts"}],"about":[{"href":"https:\/\/sciencesandnatures.com\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/types\/post"}],"author":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/sciencesandnatures.com\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/users\/2"}],"replies":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/sciencesandnatures.com\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/comments?post=6956"}],"version-history":[{"count":1,"href":"https:\/\/sciencesandnatures.com\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts\/6956\/revisions"}],"predecessor-version":[{"id":6957,"href":"https:\/\/sciencesandnatures.com\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts\/6956\/revisions\/6957"}],"wp:attachment":[{"href":"https:\/\/sciencesandnatures.com\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/media?parent=6956"}],"wp:term":[{"taxonomy":"category","embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/sciencesandnatures.com\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/categories?post=6956"},{"taxonomy":"post_tag","embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/sciencesandnatures.com\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/tags?post=6956"}],"curies":[{"name":"wp","href":"https:\/\/api.w.org\/{rel}","templated":true}]}}</a></p></div></a></figcaption></figure></h3></a></figcaption></figure></p></a></figcaption></figure></p></a></figcaption></figure></p></em></p>