{"id":6166,"date":"2024-11-28T03:29:25","date_gmt":"2024-11-28T03:29:25","guid":{"rendered":"https:\/\/sciencesandnatures.com\/?p=6166"},"modified":"2024-11-28T03:29:25","modified_gmt":"2024-11-28T03:29:25","slug":"the-reason-why-the-7-year-old-daughter-of-my-fiance-cooks-and-does-all-the-chores-daily-left-me-speechless","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/sciencesandnatures.com\/the-reason-why-the-7-year-old-daughter-of-my-fiance-cooks-and-does-all-the-chores-daily-left-me-speechless\/","title":{"rendered":"The reason why the 7-year-old daughter of my fiance cooks and does all the chores daily left me speechless"},"content":{"rendered":"\n

When my fianc\u00e9 moved in with me and brought his daughter, Amila, she, like clockwork, would wake up before anyone else and prepare an amazing breakfast for us. One day, I finally asked her, “Sweetheart, why do you wake up so early to do all this? What she said floored me.” I heard my dad saying to uncle Jack about my mom that if she can’t wake up early and cook and do all the chores, no one will ever marry or love her. I’m just afraid that daddy won’t love me anymore if I don’t do all these things.” I was speechless…and FURIOUS. My seemingly modern fianc\u00e9 was mumbling medieval nonsense. Not in my house!\n\n\n\n

My fiance and his 7-year-old daughter moved in with me. I was looking forward to my new life with them and made sure they felt welcomed and cozy in their new home. But almost every morning, I was awoken by my future stepdaughter\u2019s tiny steps that headed straight to the kitchen to prepare breakfast before her father and I got out of bed.\n\n\n\n

At first, I found this very cute, but as days went by, I realized this became a routine for Amila. I knew children liked pretending to be adults at times, but it seemed to me that Amila was taking on too much herself.\"Ezoic\"\n\n\n\n

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One morning, when I entered the kitchen, I saw he making coffee using the coffee machine. \u201cLook, I made you and daddy some fresh coffee, please try it and tell me if you like it,\u201d she said to me.\n\n\n\n

\u201cOf course I like it sweetheart, but why are you doing all this?\u201d I said. \u201cYou know what Amila, you are still very young and you need more sleep, why would you wake up before dawn and make breakfast for us?\u201d I honestly wondered.\"Ezoic\"\n\n\n\n

But Amila pretended not to hear what I was saying.\n\n\n\n

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Midjourney\n\n\n\n

The breakfast thing happened again and again, and I found it more awkward each time.\"Ezoic\"\n\n\n\n

It was like that until I figured out she was trying to please her dad for some reason. When my fiance walked into the kitchen one morning, his daughter told him she made pancakes. He gave her a kiss and said, \u201cThanks, honey. You\u2019re getting to be quite the little homemaker.\u201d\n\n\n\n

Hearing the word \u2018homemaker,\u2019 Amila and I reacted totally differently from each other. While I was shocked that he called her that, Amila seemed to feel very proud of herself.\"Ezoic\"\n\n\n\n

This only confirmed my suspicions that there was more to the story.\n\n\n\n

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Midjourney\n\n\n\n

A few days passed by and I told Amila we needed to talk. I explained that she didn\u2019t need to prepare the breakfast and clean around the house. She was just a child and she should have left the cooking and the chores to the grown ups, but then she turned to me and said something that crushed my heart.\"Ezoic\"\n\n\n\n

\u201cI heard Daddy talking to Uncle Jack about my mom. He said that if a woman doesn\u2019t wake up early, cook, and do all the chores, no one will ever love or marry her,\u201d Amila said. \u201cSo if I don\u2019t do all this, my dad won\u2019t love me any longer.\u201d\n\n\n\n

Something in me snapped. This sweet child carried the weight of her father\u2019s toxic expectations.\"Ezoic\"\n\n\n\n

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This needed to change ASAP, and I had a plan.\n\n\n\n

In the days to come, I asked from my fiance to do a bunch of chores, such as mowing the lawn, do the laundry\u2026 you name it.\n\n\n\n

Finally, after a couple of days, he realized something wasn\u2019t right. \u201cHun, what\u2019s going on, why do you make me do all this?\u201d he asked. \u201cWell, if you can\u2019t do all those chores and more, then you won\u2019t be useful to me, so why would I marry you?\u201d I said.\"Ezoic\"\n\n\n\n

My words left my fiance speechless. \u201cWHAT!?\u201d he yelled.\n\n\n\n

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I then turned to him and said, \u201cRyan, do you know why your daughter makes breakfast and cleans the house every single day? Because she overheard you telling your brother that he mom wasn\u2019t worth loving unless she woke up early to cook for you.\"Ezoic\"\n\n\n\n

\u201cWhat\u2019s most, she now thinks you won\u2019t love her if she doesn\u2019t do that.\u201d\n\n\n\n

\u201cOh my God. But\u2026but I didn\u2019t mean that,\u201d he tried to defend himself.\"Ezoic\"\n\n\n\n

\u201cYou owe your daughter an apology,\u201d I said, hoping I didn\u2019t make things worse.\n\n\n\n

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\u201cI know I do,\u201d Ryan said and went to Amila\u2019s room. He explained to her that his love for her was unconditional. She was his little baby and he loved her no matter what. He told her what she overheard was wrong and that she didn\u2019t need to make breakfast ever again.\"Ezoic\"\n\n\n\n

Amila felt relieved. These words were everything she needed to hear.\n\n\n\n

Ryan still feels guilty of making his daughter doubt his love for her, but he now does his best to be a better father.\"Ezoic\"\n\n\n\n

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